QSM One-on-One
Individual Practice with Alex
An intimate, one-on-one exploration of your desires, challenges, and possibilities for greater connection, pleasure, and freedom.
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What the practice looks like
We begin with what's actually happening in your life—something you want to change, something that feels constrained, or something you'd like to experience more fully. Your interests and intentions give our work direction. Individual Practice draws on the structure and practices of the Queer Sovereignty Method, alongside other approaches to embodiment, intimacy, sexuality, and personal growth. Together, these give us a way to work toward what matters to you, with plenty of room for discovery along the way.
Each cycle begins with your personalized five-page Preparation Guide, bringing together selected teachings from QSM and other bodies of work, my reflections on our work together, original learning graphics, and invitations to reflective and embodied pleasure practices developed specifically for you. It's an opportunity to start exploring before we meet, allowing our session to build on what you've already noticed and experienced.
Depending on your interests, when we meet, we might use conversation, reflection, breathwork, meditation, embodied exercises, or experiments with expression and connection. Our work can also move into erotic and sexual exploration. Depending on what you're exploring, an in-person session may include consensual erotic experiences together in support of your intentions. We discuss boundaries and consent in advance, and you remain free to change your mind or stop at any time.
Throughout our work, we keep coming back to what you want for yourself. Perhaps it's greater confidence expressing your desires, more freedom in your sexuality, deeper intimacy, or the ability to make choices that have felt difficult or out of reach. Our aim is to help you develop your awareness, confidence, and capacity to bring more of what you want into your life.
My approach
I bring decades of personal exploration in queer kink communities, along with experience creating and leading Conscious Kink, a week-long immersive retreat at Qasa in Costa Rica exploring desire, pleasure, power, consent, intimacy, and vulnerability. My work is also informed by breathwork, meditation, somatic and psycho-spiritual practices, contemporary psychology, neuroscience, and the teachings and wisdom of others working in queer sexuality, kink, and pleasure-positive spaces.
My work with men through QSM Individual Practice continues to deepen my understanding of the possibilities for intimacy, connection, and personal growth.
These experiences and ongoing learning have shaped the Queer Sovereignty Method and its Sovereignty Loop™, a structured approach to helping men develop greater awareness, emotional and embodied capacity, and freedom to express themselves more authentically. It's a framework I bring to our work together, adapting its practices to your interests, intentions, and experiences.
My training includes Advanced Facilitation with The Body Electric School and trauma-informed practices. Years of facilitating experiences around sexuality, pleasure, intimacy, kink, and connection have taught me how to create environments where these parts of ourselves can be explored directly—not just talked about. The work is collaborative and grounded in consent.
I'm not a psychotherapist, and QSM isn't therapy.
The structure
We begin with a complimentary 30-minute discovery call. It's a chance to get to know each other, talk about what you're interested in exploring, and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
Individual Practice is $175 per cycle. Each cycle begins with a personalized five-page Preparation Guide, followed by a 60-minute one-on-one session.
Sessions take place via Zoom or in person in San Francisco, by mutual agreement. I'm generally available during the day or early evening (Pacific Time), Monday through Saturday, or by special arrangement. In-person sessions may also be possible when I'm traveling near you.
There is no required number of cycles. After completing each Preparation Guide and session, you can decide whether you'd like to continue exploring, take time to integrate, or simply feel complete.
If you choose to continue, I'll develop your next Preparation Guide as an invitation to deepen or expand our work together, building on what we've already explored and opening new possibilities. We'll schedule the next session at a time that works for you.
Payment is due after each cycle.
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